Friday, July 25, 2008

Abortion Changes You

”Although one out of three women of childbearing years have had an abortion in the United States by age 45, we rarely talk about our abortion experiences with even our closest friends and family members. Because we don’t talk about our experiences, most couples have no working knowledge about how an abortion may impact them in the future. "
(From a book by Michaelene Fredenburg: "Changed: Making Sense of Your Own or a Loved One's Abortion Experience)

Karna Swanson, writing in a Zenit article, interviewed the author:
Men and women have a variety of reactions after an abortion ranging from relief to paralyzing guilt and grief. Many individuals experience conflicted emotions that are both positive and negative. While I had an immediate reaction after my abortion, there are others that will experience a delay of months, years, or even decades. …Any number of reasons can contribute to a sense of urgency to “erase” a pregnancy including the desire to keep the pregnancy a secret, the abandonment of a partner, or the lack of economic resources.

There is often the expectation that life will go back to the way it was before the pregnancy. However, when a man or woman realizes that this isn’t possible, he or she may experience powerful feelings of regret. The reasons for choosing abortion that were compelling before the procedure may appear weak or very different after the procedure. ...

Q: Many women wrote that even though they were sure the decision to abort was the right one, they immediately regretted it. How should we interpret that immediate regret?
"...My healing process began when I reached out for help and learned that I wasn’t alone."

There is also a Web site that goes along with the book. … a safe confidential place that can be visited any time of the day or night: The interactive content allows visitors to anonymously explore at their own pace.

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